Guest Post by Mary Banos

Please join me in welcoming a fellow author and high school mate, Mary Banos.

Book Cover2Mary, it is a pleasure to have you here. I won’t date us by saying when we went to high school together, but Mary and I graduated from the High School of Performing and Visual Arts at Booker T. Washington in Dallas, Texas. She recently published her first non-fiction book titled, Uplifting One Life at a Time. I am excited to share your encouraging message!

Thank you for having me here, Kary.

“Each of us has times of needing encouragement in our lives.  We also can each find opportunities daily to encourage others around us.  It can be easy to get lost in our day to day lives, neglecting ourselves when we could be finding ways to help ourselves, and missing opportunities of helping other people.

I first suggest that you take an inner look at yourself, your goals in life, how you feel about reaching those goals, and to recognize ways which you can encourage yourself in obtaining each of your goals.  Think about the decisions which you make during day to day activities.  Are they choices that are healthy for you emotionally and mentally?  Are you uplifting yourself?  And are you finding ways to obtain the goals which you desire?

Next think about the people who you encounter day to day:  family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and others.  Who could you reach out to each day?  A compliment to be given?  A word of encouragement?

Each of us can make a difference in lives, our own as well as those around us.  We can make a true difference.”

My bio:

Mary has worked in financial aid in higher education for over 16 years, assisting students with the financial means to achieve their goal of a college education. Mary was fortunate to overcome a troubled childhood, plagued with times of depression, resulting in random thoughts of committing suicide. In her adulthood, Mary overcame the pain that was her past. This past developed within her the life long passion of helping and encouraging others. Mary is working on a Masters of Science degree in Family Studies. Her goal is to be an author and motivational public speaker ,while her collective passion is to encourage others, help others overcome obstacles, and to reach their goals and dreams.

Link for the book:

Mary’s website:

My publishers are still working on my website. Once complete, we will have chat rooms and discussion forums.  It will be a social network, with the goal of creating a “community of encouragement.”  I want it to be a place where people can come to talk and encourage each other.

Book excerpt:

“George Barnard Shaw stated, “Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating you.”(12)  Within you is the ability to be the person who you desire to be and to have the life which you deeply desire.  When your past is one that would lead in a direction other than your desired future, then it is completely in your hands and control.  You can shift the path that your past would dictate for you.

If your life started in a direction that would hinder your success and happiness, then it is up to you to change the road that you are on.  For some, counseling is needed.  For others, it makes a difference to have people around you who give you encouragement and support.  Regardless of whether or not you need help from others, you will most definitely need to become able to encourage yourself.”


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About Kary Rader

Kary Rader is a stay-at-home mother of three, avid reader and slave to the characters and worlds inside her head. Always creative, she's drawn to stories with fantastical worlds and creatures. With a little bit of magic and divine guidance, there isn't anything that can't be accomplished. And it's the power of words that creates and destroys. Vanquishing evil and injustice while finding eternal love in the process is all in a day's work. And with the help of her critique partners and master cartographer imaginary places come to life. Come join her for an adventure and maybe you too will be claimed by passion and changed by love. Because there is no greater power than the human spirit and anything is possible if you believe. Let the fantasy begin…


Guest Post by Mary Banos — 17 Comments

  1. Mary and I came to be friends through a mutual friend, Dana, and the story of how Dana’s encouragement literally saved me appears in her book. Since then, Mary has been a constant source of positivity and joy in my life, and I am so proud to call her friend and be a witness to this outstanding achievement of having her first book published! She has been an inspiration to me and many others, and I highly recommend this book! You won’t believe just how easy it is to bring someone up. Sometimes all it takes is a smile and a kind word.

    • Thanks for stopping by, Carla! You are so right. Words hold power. It’s one of the reasons I became a writer. There is nothing more powerful in our world for good or evil than our words and it only takes a few to create or destroy.

  2. Encouragement is so important. I know as a writer I have a special group of women writers (Kary, you know you’re one of them!) who I can go to when I need a comforting word. And I’m pretty sure they feel the same about me:)

    • Lisa – You know you are an ispiration to me too! I believe successful living requires a series of support groups because this is not a one horse show. We all need each other.

  3. Mary, you are so right and I believe that for many of us it is just finding the courage to face our true selves and go after the goals we set. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom and uplifting us today.

  4. Your publisher is working on your website? Well, you’ve impressed me.

    This books sounds exactly what someone in my family needs. She’s 35 and so wrapped up in her past, she can’t create a future.

    Great timing. Thank you Kary for being so timely in inviting your friend to talk about her book.

  5. How nice to meet a friend of Kary’s. This was a wonderful post. I’ve always found it strange how so many people never take time to learn about themselves.

  6. A person can never get enough encouragement. I always try to stay on the positive side with others. I feel there is way too much negativity out in the world. As writers we HAVE to deal with a certain amount of it. But I wish some would stop and think of the effect their words will have on others before they type, lol. There is no need to make a person feel bad about themselves or their writing. It may take a little more effort to be careful with your wording, but it will make all the difference to the person receiving them.

  7. So good to meet a friend of Kary’s. I love the idea of your book. More than we realize people need to be encouraged to take charge of their lives. They have the power to change–but they don’t always know that. Excellent post and an excellent book.

  8. Thank you to each one of you who left a comment. I appreciate the feedback, thoughts, and support.

    I realized that I forgot to also list my facebook page, in case any of you want to connect there. I will be posting updates, such as times when my book will be free on Kinle.

    Thank you again to each of you!